Before deciding to quit my job and going through a Long Distance Marriage, I have been seeing some scary pictures in my head. Raising Baby D by myself, handling all the housewives responsibilities without hubby, carrying Baby D everywhere I go, et cetera.
Now, it has been my third week living far from my hubby and so far it goes better than expectations. Never thought I got the strength, patience and diligence to be a Mom.
So, these are few fears I have been facing:
- Fear of traveling alone with my baby. It started with me going to the hospital all by myself. Now, I am capable to solo travel to other city with Baby D .
- Fear of animal carcasses.
- Panic Attack.
- Fear of ghost
- Fear of messing things up
Never thought that I am able to confront my biggest fears. Here are few tips to confront our fear:
1. Identify Actual Fears.
I learnt that it is important to identify my fear and discover what lies behind that fear.
For example, when I felt scared of being in an LDM, I found out that there were some rooted fears behind. After finding things out, I made few plans to control these fears.
2. Differentiate whether it’s rational or not. Some fears are actually irrelevant and irrational.
3. Visualize Success. Visualize how my life will be if I can be free from all those fears. I would feel content in my own space, and for sure my kids will feel safe too.
4. Relax and Breathe.
Relax your body, control your breathe.
5. Fun Facts: 85% of Our Worries Never Happen.
So live your life, and enjoy the moment.
6. Remind yourself about your past accomplishments.
7. Expose yourself to your fears.
Break the fear cycle. I am so scared of rats. Last weekend I picked up a rat carcass by myself, and I made it.
8. Support System.
Surround yourself with positive people who can support you mentally and spiritually. My husband is my best support system so far, he gave me insightful feedback over my progress in facing my fears and panic attack. When he is around, he helped me to be relax and control my breathe.
9. “Fake it til you make it”
Pretend like you are a brave mom, until you can become one. 😉
10. Reward yourself.
Every time you managed to face your biggest fears, treat yourself with a good food or a good book, etc.
Bless This Mess 