What quality do you value most in a friend?
As I grow older, some things I learned in friendship is not only about how to stay connected, but how to stay apart.
I got some friendships that last a lifetime. Take my friendships with my best friends, Niken and Agung, for example. Niken is my best friend since we were in elementary school, and Agung is my best friend since we were in middle school.
Being best friends for more than two decades, we don’t necessarily know the minute details of our lives. However, I do know all the important journey that they have been through: where they are moving, who they are dating or marrying, and some other important things in their life.
What I love about us is our friendship is secure and stress-free.
We don’t get angry when we don’t hear from each other in a long time, but once we get together it is as we’ve seen each other yesterday.
I could hang out with other new friends or post pictures of us having fun on instagram without them feeling left out or totally neglected.
Nowadays, people called these kinds of friendships as a ‘low maintenance friendship’ and I swear this is the most genuine type of friendship I’ve ever experienced in my life.
Maintaining friends, especially after I become a mom and a wife, has been quite a challenge for me. My days are fully occupied with responsibilities, and it’s not easy to bring our little baby to the mall or to travel, for the sake of catching up with friends.
That’s why for me low maintenance friends are the best type of friendship I always need.
Bless This Mess 