List three books that have had an impact on you. Why?
I love reading, especially to read self-help book. Perhaps my experience as a Leadership Trainer have a direct impact of my choice of books and movies.
Throughout all the books I have read, these are three most impactful books that really changed my life:
101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married
My husband and I used this book as a guideline to get to know each other. I remember telling him that I bought this book, so we decided to answer the questions together while we went on some dates.
It was surprising because we truly got to know each other from asking these questions. “How are we gonna keep the romance alive if we were to marry?” “What lessons have we learned from our past relationship?” “Where do we want to live when we get married?” And many more.. we spent days to talk about some interesting questions.
In fact, we almost broke up because he opened up about the probability of us to be in a long distance marriage later because of his duties at work. However, after days of discussion and careful consideration about this probability, we found common ground and long term goal about our future.
Thank God we have discussed about this, so I could prepare myself better and control my expectations.
The Subtle Art of not Giving a Fuck
As an over thinker, I tend to worry even about the smallest details. This book really slapped me with facts plus some harsh truth of how worrying would draw me farther from my inner peace and future goals.
I love how Mark Mason makes me realize that being honest and true to myself would safe me from stress and disappointment.
This book provided us insights about how to set our mindset and attitude in day to day problems and challenge.
The Five Love Language
This book showed me five love languages that we all speak, and how to love our partner or significant other even better.
This really improves my relationship with my husband, my best friend and family.
I recognized that my husband and I speak different love language. My husband showed his love through acts of service, I showed him my love through quality time. By finding out about our love language we finally found ways to love each other better without ignoring our needs.
My husband thought that my idea of sitting and talking for hours on a couch is such a waste of time, while I thought that how he came late to our date because of him cooking our favorite food is such a waste of our precious dating hours.
Finally, now, we enjoyed how to love each other by balancing some quality time and act of service. For example by cooking our dinner together while discussing about our view of love and life in general, doing laundry together while joking about the holes on our underwear, they make us closer and love each other even more than ever.
Well, those are some books I read that really change my life. Actually it is a little mix of these and those books but overall these three are my favorites. How about you, please tell me the books that also has changed your life?
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